Monday, May 27, 2013

I just don't know

As some of you know, Mike and I are in the process of selling our home. It is a process, and has been a long time in the making, but once the decision to sell was made things have progressed very quickly. The first question people ask when they hear we're moving is, naturally, "Where are you moving to?" Our answer often surprises them. Or worries...or frustrates...or confuses...

We do not know.

We have a plan, but there are a lot of factors that may sway or change our course. We're ok with that, and ultimately, we really have no clue where we'll be living when our home closes. To add to the confusion, we are doing a short sell so even though we have an offer on our home, we have to wait for the bank to approve everything and it is a time consuming process and requires a lot of waiting.

The fact is, this is absolutely thrilling for us. We've made a decision without having a solid plan in place and are stepping out in faith in what we feel is obedience to God. Not having a plan is very unusual for us but we feel as though God has spent the last few years stripping us of those things we find our comfort and security in, that are not Him. While this is exciting for us, the kids see it a little bit differently.

Last week, before church began, the kids were asking about when and where we are going to move. I told them, yet again, that we do NOT know, but that God does. They continued to ask questions.

"Will we take our TV?" Yes.
"Will our new house have an upstairs?" Maybe.
"Will we take the fireplace?" No.
"Will we take our beds?" Yes.
"Can my stuffies stay with me?" Of course.
"But the light switches...will they come, too?" No.

So. Many. Questions.
At one point, Brooklyn began to cry and wailed,

"What if our new home doesn't have a baaaaaaathrooooooom?"
It was comical. I tried to suppress a laugh (unsuccessfully) before I went to give her a hug and assure her that Mike and I will make sure that her basic needs are going to be taken care of.
And the words just slipped out,

"Why can't you just trust that we will take care of you?"

Oh man.

Did the Holy Spirit totally just talk to me while I was reprimanding my daughter?


The kids have never moved before so this is a new experience for them, but I honestly reached a point where I thought, "Have we taken such terrible care of you, have we provided so poorly for you, that you can't even trust us to make sure you have a place to use the bathroom?"

How many times do I do that with God? How many times have I become hung up on these details that are of no consequence? How many times have I questioned His ability to care for me, or to provide for me, or to love me simply because I can't see what He has in store? When things don't go the way I expect, how quickly do I become despairing and begin to wail and moan that He isn't giving me what I think I need?

I've been told that raising children is a refining process that reveals much of your own sin. Over the years I've thought this meant that I would see how selfish I am (it has) or how impatient I am (yep...that, too) or whatever other sin I think I am struggling with. I didn't think it would be revealed how little I trust my Father to take care of me.

In that moment with my daughter, I felt a deep compassion for her and a need to just hold her. I heard myself saying,

"Mom and Dad are going to be there. We'll be with you. We'll take care of you. That will never change."

I could feel God saying the same things to me.

I don't know how our story is going to play out. I don't expect that we will always be comfortable, or warm, or honestly, that we will always have a toilet to pee in. God has never promised us those things. But He does promise to never leave us and that He does work all things for good, for those that love Him and are called according to His purpose. I'd like to think that means having a toilet, but ... you never know. I do know He has it all planned out and I am thankful that even when I'm crying out to Him because I just cannot for the life of me figure out what is going on, He can gently chuckle and put His arms around me and whisper to my heart,

"You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord God is an everlasting rock." Isaiah 26:3,4

So, no. We don't know where we're going to live.
But God does.
And by God's grace, I'm content to rest there.


  1. Just ran across your blog tonight. I've been married to a cop for almost 14 years. I've never followed any "cop wife" blogs which is kind of strange cause I follow lots of other blogs. I guess the thought just never crossed my mind for some reason. Anyway... your post resonated with me. We just sold our house via a short sale last December. We found ourselves in a similar situation to you in that we had no idea where we would move. And people totally didn't know what to think of that, lol. Our short sale took 9 long months to get approved (don't want to freak you out, according to our agent and even the mortgage company our sale was one of the worst handled they had ever seen so yours should go quicker). Anyway, night before we got the call that the sale was approved we had decided to back out because I was due in one month with our fifth child and didn't want to be moving!!! We decided to go ahead with it. So there we found ourselves with two weeks to find a place to rent that would allow two german shepherds and five kids, pack up the house and move all while hoping that baby did not decide to arrive early. With only a week left before closing, house after house fell thru and we were beginning to think we'd be moving into my parent's vacant one bedroom condo til we could find a place. But a few days before the closing a house popped up on craigslist. Amazing price, great location and great yard for our kids. We called, went and saw it that day, signed the lease the next day and moved in 5 days later. Baby gave me a week to unpack the house and get settled. It has been truly amazing to see how God provided for our family. We like the house so much better than our old one (and it's $500 cheaper)!! We love the downtown neighborhood we are in. We got to stay close to our church and friends in the area. Just writing out this comment is reminding me how much God has truly provided for our family over the past few months in ways we never could have forseen. I admire your contentment and trust in the Lord. I have to admit I was an absolute, anxious mess the whole time. But God used the whole thing to show me that I can and should put my trust in him and he will provide. Blessings to you and your family!

  2. It will all work out. Keep the faith. God Bless.


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