Thursday, June 17, 2010

So, here's the thing.

I have this other blog I started a couple years ago - mostly as a creative outlet but also as a place to share what I was thinking about whatever. It was often neglected as I felt crazy busy with our four kids and rarely had time to go to the bathroom, let alone sit down and write an entire blog post.

At the end of October last year when Ofc. Brenton was killed, and then when the four Lakewood officers were gunned down I felt that the police wife part of me needed a place to go and write about what was going on in my head and in my heart. I had a few things I've posted that I feel have been relevant to living with a police officer, but the majority of what I write is about what I know the most about ...

Being a wife. Being a mom. Being a Christian.

And that's it.

I've realized, while reading other police wife blogs, that Officer Hottie has worked exceptionally hard, and done exceedingly well, at protecting me and our children from what living with a police officer could be like. Some of the credit can be given to the department he works for and the people he works with. His department encourages family and because they are a small department don't often encounter the big politics that disrupt other departments. His coworkers, as much as they get along, go home to their families after every shift. There is no "fraternity" or "blue wall" and I know I speak for many spouses at the department when I say that being police officers is what their spouses do - but it does not define who they are.

Most of the credit, however, I give to my husband. Even during our most trying times in law enforcement he has remained open, honest and kind. During academy when he was gone and stressed, he came home, rolled around with the boys and helped me with the dinner dishes. When his friend was killed on duty, he clung to me and our family, talking with his dad and our pastor to find comfort. When his schedule changed every month and he worked the most bizarre hours I'd ever heard of, he went without sleep so his children would know his face and his wife could have his support. When he left his first department and the treatment he received was less than fair, he never complained; he simply carried on with dignity, refusing to stoop to such a low level. He has, by all accounts, done everything within his power to maintain his integrity as a husband, father and Christian. I am proud that my husband prioritizes his family. I am thankful that I don't totally understand what other police wives seem to go through.

With that being said, I have decided that the place I know and fit in best is my old blog. I hope you will come by and visit the old/new blog - maybe even become a follower - but I honestly feel that it's misleading to have a blog titled "Confessions of  Police Officer's Wife" when the reality is only 1 in 10 posts actually have anything to do with being married to a police officer. After all, Officer Hottie has always been a hero to me; the badge just made him a hero to everyone else.

I will blog here every once in awhile; when, on those rare occasions, I actually have something to say as a police wife. And I plan on continuing to read your blogs because they are something I truly enjoy reading. For the most part, however, I plan on being over at  Being Gently Led. I hope you'll stop by for a visit sometime.


  1. I'm a follower on your old/new blog! I'm with you, I don't really know what it's like to be a true police wife. It's what my husband does but I don't think it defines him. His department isn't small, but it isn't like big cities. I guess this is something we'll both have to figure out together, so when you do, let me know. :)

  2. Wait a minute! I want the end of the debt story! I mean, I know how it ends, but I still want the story! You're like a season ender sitcom...leaving us hanging. The ole' "I got another blog" excuse ain't gonna (that's the southern peach in me) work with us! ;)

  3. Deputy's Wife: We can team up...maybe we can both figure it out? Ha!
    Momma K9 - no worries! I plan on continuing the story ... but on my uthu blog (that's my lame attempt at jive or something)

  4. i was just going to ask for the end of the debt story too! Dont forget it!

  5. Ok will hop on over and follow there. I loved what you put "Officer Hottie has always been a hero to me; the badge just made him a hero to everyone else." So true about my guy too. Oh and I agree with Momma K9 ~ finish the story one way or another :-) LOL

  6. I just stumbled upong your blog tonight. I'm looking forward to reading it. :) I'm a mom, Christian and a police wife. Just by reading your profile I was like "hmm, I think I might like this lady." :)


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